I dont know what to do...

[Jonzu95]

I had bad arguement with my mum. It happens very often. today, My mum came mad because I had to close the computer but I didnt wanted... Then, I closed it and my mum started saying that I am selfish and all kind of that stuff. 2nd arguement today started when I dropped ONE plum to the floor. Then he started again complaining. I took a plate, put some bread to toaster and I sitted to the chair, we argued more and more... Then my mum went insane. She put all the plums to my plate and started to shout for me. I cried. So did Temi too... Temi didnt too nothing, but still cried. I dont know what to do... Should I live with my mum without internet connection except my phone. Or live with my dad, no rules, no limited computer times...

[Somebody]

I feel your pain. My parents are always fighting about stupid stuff. Then they yell at me when I try to mediate and my sister gets all sad.

[Sparkey98]

are you having financial issues like me? are you three months in debt of bills like me? think about that
 
 
goe with witchever is nicer to you is what I'd do. Don't feel bad if you cry, my mom makes me breakdown and cry to.

[Somebody]

Sparkey quit whining about your own problems. They are irrelevant to what Jonzu is saying.

[frezal]

That was a bit hard to understand, but go with the house with rules. You'll thank your mother later in life.

are you having financial issues like me? are you three months in debt of bills like me? think about that

How do you have any debt? You're not even a teen! Debt is what describes my situation. I owe over $30,000 in student loans and about $1,800 to my university (which I must pay before I can re-enroll).

[Sparkey98]

7,00 dllers in debt for a failing store
 
 
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[Jack Daniels]

Jonzu, your mom is under a lot of stress.  Parenting can be really hard because sometimes it feels like adults and kids operate very differently.  If your parents are separated, that can be really stressful too.  It makes her second guess choices that she made in her life... and probably (while she does not regret having you as a son) she probably feels guilty for putting you in a position where your parents are not together.  Feelings like that can weigh very heavily on her heart.  Sometimes she is going to feel like she is doing the best she can as a parent, but if you are disagreeable then she can feel dejected because maybe her good is not good enough.  It is not your fault at all though.

Women, in general, are very emotional creatures.  They can get very stirred up in an emotional moment.  The best way to navigate the situation is stay calm and encourage conversation rather than confrontation.  If she is yelling at you just say:  "Mom, I really don't want to fight about this, but let's talk about it and figure it out though."  99 percent of the time, women want to be heard and acknowledged. You don't necessarily have to agree... but if you absorb what they say and take it seriously you will go a long way with women in your life.

Best resource when you get a few years older:  "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus"  By: John Gray

[frezal]

7,00 dllers in debt for a failing store
 
 
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Who in their right mind would give a child $700 (or did you mean $7000?) to create a store?

[powerrave]

jonzu, i think it is best to go with what JD said. i can understand that you are in a tough situation, but i can't really help you. i don't have any experience with this kind of stuff.

[Rolo]

7,00 dllers in debt for a failing store
 
 
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Who in their right mind would give a child $700 (or did you mean $7000?) to create a store?

What confuses me more is how the hell a child earns $700 / $7000 dollars in 3 months.
EDIT: Sorry Jonzu, I'm now going to read your opening post.

EDIT 2: Ontopic: That would pretty much depend on your relationship to your father. Do you respect him? Does he know what's good for you?

You can't really respect a person that does you wrong like that. Arguments will turn worse.

If both are yes, I'd say live with your father.

I grew up living with my mother against my will, always wanted to be with my father, little rules, but I respected him. I didn't respect my mom, in fact I hated her at times, but my father, sad enough, never had a real place to live, or when he did, it was with some bitch I couldn't stand (although still 50/50 owner of the house my mom, me and my sister lived in)

It's really hard to grow up to be a man without a father, dude. Believe me. I moved out a couple of months ago and it was the best thing I ever did in my life. I can finally be happy again.

Also,


Take care man.

[Little lost bot]

Thats pretty good advice their Jack Daniels it may help me improve my relation with my mom to.

Jonzu95 I know how you feel my parents are divorce to thats how I got anger issues. When that happens try to understand were she is coming from don't get all mad at her for all the  rules. My mom almost hates my dad, they both say different things. Do you get to visit your dad if so only amply his rule at his house and her rules at her house. As for arguing #1 try not to get into a verbal fight when that happens leave the room other wise it only gets worse then when your calmed down and calmly try to find out why she is upset that can help a lot. If your money short try to only snack if your family has the cash to afford it eating a lot when money tight while also put more stress on your mom. Again try to understand where your mom is coming from and try to compensate for the troubles it should help.

Good luck

[ACAMS]

I never did fight with my mom, but just remember......someday she will not be here and you will wish you had acted better.
I wish my mom was still around I can tell you! (Kinda getting to miss my ol daddy too!)

[090901]

Then he started again complaining. I took a plate, put some bread to toaster and I sitted to the chair, we argued more and more... Then my mum went insane.

wut. Your mom is a he?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!

[frezal]

Then he started again complaining. I took a plate, put some bread to toaster and I sitted to the chair, we argued more and more... Then my mum went insane.

wut. Your mom is a he?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!

His mom is actually Arnold Schwarzenegger.

[TriTon]

I seriously feel your pain Jonzu, I argue back at my parents too, but instead of losing stuff, I get beaten. To be honest, I have actually run away from home several times, but it didn't last more than a few hours(longest time being around 8 hours), then I'd come back.

I have seen my dad beat my mom, and he told me if I ever call the police, he said, "I will hunt you down and kill you." My parents don't yell at me much though(mainly because my brother has F's in all his classes).

So I know what you're going through.

[Flying_Chao]

Your dad beats your mom?!

[frezal]

I have seen my dad beat my mom, and he told me if I ever call the police, he said, "I will hunt you down and kill you."

That is a serious problem. As scary as his threat is, seeking help seems like a damn good option. Living in an unstable environment like that isn't healthy for you physically, or mentally.

[Little lost bot]

I have seen my dad beat my mom, and he told me if I ever call the police, he said, "I will hunt you down and kill you."

That is a serious problem. As scary as his threat is, seeking help seems like a damn good option. Living in an unstable environment like that isn't healthy for you physically, or mentally.

I have to agree. TriTon you need to get some help asap. Living in that kind of atmosphere tends to cause kids a lot of hurt and then they do bad stuff to try to get rid of the pain( I'm not saying you'll do that just saying what I heard and what can results usually happens). I'v herd story's like this at my church and man they.... thats a different story but you need to get help your dad threatens that stuff man.....

[Mouldy]

My dad is the lazyestin the world all he's does is sitts on his ass all day watching football, if I play with him and he keeps losing say from the other day he went blolistick when he was losing at CTR and Crash Bash! As for my mum she works all day or goes out it's always do this? and do that and god noes blimming everything else and as a young kid well it is a big pain in the backside!

[Jonzu95]

Thanks guys. That helped little 'bit...